Quick, Cheap, Divorce

Divorce can be the most difficult and painful thing you ever go through in your life. And yet it can be a profound and transformational experience that opens the door to radical happiness and freedom.

Divorcing people tend to do some destructive things. They remarry on the rebound, abuse alcohol or drugs, become abusive toward the other partner, stalk, use the children against each other, abuse authority to hurt the other, withdraw, date obsessively, shut down, become consumed by bitterness, stay in victim mentality for years or even a lifetime.

They are often out of touch with their pain and destructive behavior as well. And since our society doesn't acknowledge it or value the deep learning that could come from a life crisis like this, divorcing people have the added pressure of wondering what's wrong with them.

But even when a person is willing to address their pain, most of us are ill equipped to deal with the emotional turmoil divorce brings.

With so little support or understanding and a societal belief that it shouldn't take too long to get over it, what can a person do?

Below is a list of suggestions to help you love yourself and come out of this as a new, stronger person.

The suggestions:

**Get a journal and write A LOT! Turn off the internal editor and just write ceaselessly and until you start to feel better. Ask a Higher Power or whatever name you would use for God for guidance in your writing.

**Look into the mirror and connect with yourself, send yourself love, send LOTS of it!

**Read motivational books.

**Give yourself the gift of healing workshops.

**Order my book "Manifesting Money and Much More" from e-mail address or phone number below. It has a number of exercises at the back to help you with self-esteem.

**Check out spiritualgeography.com and go to "the map".

**Get Debbie Ford's book "Spiritual Divorce".

**Get "Chicken Soup for the Soup: Divorce and Recovery".

**Get Debbie Ford's "21 Day Consciousness Cleanse" and follow the program.

**Take a class doing something that you've always wanted to do.

**Join social groups, try new things, (be careful of support groups filled with people who label themselves victims or just want to complain - you want POSITIVE people who see possibility).

**Make new friends. Meetup.com is a good place to start.

**Check out emofree.com to learn emotional freedom technique, to help clear up the energy behind the emotional pain.

**Write to me and I'll include you in my free e-letter "Women, Divorced, Happy, Inspired" (Men can join too.)

**Send an e-mail for a FREE Special Report on Divorce (what you are reading now is a very condensed version of the report that is available free to you)

**Call or e-mail me for a free Beyond Divorce consultation

I wish you joy, peace and love in your heart. You will have the life you want when you decide it is what you will do for yourself.

Love,

Gerri

****While this report is partially based on surveys done with divorced women in various stages of divorce or separation, and on my own first hand experience, its acknowledges that men can and do have similar experiences.

Gerri Ratigan, 518 279 4283, gerricoach@gmail.com

Gerri specializes in working with mid-life divorced women who are stuck, angry or hurt and helps them create joyous, inspired new lives.